Tips to Embrace Inner Peace

Mastering Inner Peace

These are my top tips for continuously mastering inner peace. The journey from self to oneness is uniquely yours/mine, and adversity is arranged as a challenge to overcome. So, while going through the process of feeling and creating through polarity, it is OK to create and feel emotions.

1. Give Up Trying to Control Others

This is my number one tip. Giving up on controlling what others do and don’t do helped me release the wasted energy I spent expecting others to do what I wanted. This meant I gave up advising other adults. I also gave up worrying about what happens in my outer reality. I no longer worry about who is elected or world events. I don’t worry about tomorrow because that is wasted energy. I live in the now.

This doesn’t mean I don’t have boundaries. I maintain healthy boundaries, so if someone is having trouble regulating their emotions and is screaming at me, that isn’t cool. I will let them know once that I will leave them to their feelings if they continue to disrespect me by screaming at me. Then, if they continue, I walk away. I don’t remind them a second time. I leave for my mental health.

I also don’t try to control what others do. Their lives are their business, and what they do with them is their business, even if they learn hard life lessons. If I were to step in and be the adult for them, I would take on their prearranged experience and interfere with their path. They are adults, and I will not be a party to enabling them. Enabling them means doing things they should be doing for themselves.

2. Living in the Past

I also stopped thinking and reliving my past choices. Living in the past removed me from enjoying the present. Every time I would relive some trauma from my past, my body would pump me full of cortisol and adrenaline, and I kept myself stuck in this fight or flight response. Even if I were to feel a little good about something, my body and mind would bring me back to this traumatic situation to relive it. I believe this was a twofold situation in which I didn’t fully experience my created emotions to the trauma and also that I was stuck in the loop of trauma. I could terminate the fight or flight loop only when I determined I would not allow this loop to continue.

3. Focus on the NOW

I choose to focus on living in the present. If I were to think about the past, I would spend my energy on that timeline. If I were to worry about the future, my energy would be spent living in the future timeline. Doing either of these results in wasted energy, and I miss out on living in the present.

Living in the present allows me to pay attention to my surroundings. I look for things to be grateful for; when I do this, I attract more things to enjoy. Yay, holiday lights, celebrations, forest walks, cinnamon buns, my dog, and my life(which is utterly amazing, by the way).

4. Meditation

Meditation is another way to receive information on my soul’s path in this human incarnation. I can also talk to angels and spirit guides, family, and friends who have returned to our Home(aka heaven/the afterlife). Meditation is a medium for rejuvenation and relaxation. It’s okay to fall asleep when meditating. Sometimes, the message is to give ourselves what we need, which may be sleep. As one becomes proficient with meditation, it becomes easier to maintain the frequency where I don’t create my own stress. Stress is something we create as a byproduct of unresolved emotions.

5. Nurture Yourself

This is another biggie!! Too many times, I looked to others for self-love and nurturing. As an adult, I have the responsibility to nurture myself. I will burn out if I spend ALL my energy raising and nurturing others and putting myself LAST. This also sends a message to others that I don’t matter, and it is an example of how NOT to live. Our children need to SEE examples from their parents so they don’t continue the cycle of imbalance. So, time outs for self-love are essential. My relationship with myself is the most important one I have. This is part of mastering being human.

Many of us had parents who didn’t healthily nurture us and empowered and esteemed us. This is because they didn’t have parents who could encourage and esteem them. The social culture back then didn’t support a healthy, balanced, self-complete person. It’s OK! We have tools and techniques now to heal, feel, and become self-complete.

6. Ditch the Television News

In my twenties, I decided not to watch the local news. I didn’t feel great about a lot of fear-based information. Growing up, I ditched movies, books, and TV shows that did not align with positive, peace-based frequency.

7. Ditch Religion

You may be surprised, but this ditching included religion. Religion, as I found out, was based on 80 thousand-plus interpretations of what man thinks God or the Gods/Goddesses want. I don’t feel that a God made mankind imperfectly and would be ok with tossing his creation into a lake of fire if we don’t obey a bunch of rules or be in the right church. I also see in the religious texts a God that recognizes that he, “himself,” is angry, sexist, racist, and ok with murdering people because he feels like it. This so-called “God” isn’t aligned with what I felt in my gut: humans are made from love. I am also not OK with the amount of fear-based teaching in the religious texts. Telling people they HAVE to join this church or they will die and go to Hell for all eternity doesn’t align with free will. I know, without a doubt, we have free will. Threatening people with an end-life Hell isn’t in alignment with me having a choice.

Being saved by the murder of another person was also another huge red flag. This sounds like God is a dysfunctional individual who makes rules and then punishes his own Son for the deeds of others. In a human relationship, we would be recognizing this as domestic violence, and this family would be referred to counseling. In addition, murdering a person for the so-called sins of others is called enabling. Enabling is doing things for others that they should be doing for themselves. This means that if sin existed, we should own up to the consequences.

I also needed to talk to God and the angels directly to understand the story of coming to Earth and why we don’t remember who we are when we are here. This not remembering is why religion sprouted up and tried to give us answers we didn’t have. The angels are here to guide us individually, but we still have free will and bias based on our upbringing.

8. Creating and Feeling Emotions

Emotions are OK to have and feel. They feel intense to me in a human body. I avoided many of the lower vibrational emotions for decades. I stuffed them deep into the tissues of my physical body and had all kinds of anxiety, body ailments, and pains.

Emotions tell us that we are creating a feeling as a response to the polarity in a situation. Fear, anger, apathy, and sadness are a few of the emotions we create. Someone can not make us feel anything. They can do something to us, but we create an emotional response. Realizing I create puts me in a place of empowerment. This is my I AM identity. I am responsible for what I create during my human experience.

The human experience is about realizing we aren’t pawns in a determinate world. As Dr. Jung stated, it is the journey from self to self. It is experiencing separateness without the bias of knowing who we are as beings of light and love and the journey back to our DIVINE SELF—a SELF in full memory of who we are as beings of light. In experiencing being human, we have the unique choice of creating a LOVE energy imprint that is so powerful because it was born from a place of free will sans bias of remembering who we are as a light being.

9. Finding Joy

Finding and doing the things that bring me, Joy, in my human body was also quite the process. Finding joy allows me to live authentically. Years ago, I was lost in the hole of being human. I hated waking up in the morning. I had music in my ears all day, trying to recreate the vibrational frequency I was used to feeling, which wasn’t here on Earth. I enjoyed being a mother and raising children, and for a few decades, I had my mom hat on and was only living for my children. But I didn’t know who I was!

I sat down to find out what I enjoy about being here as a human, and I think this is more challenging than it looks. Earth is a unique place to do things and master Earth’s energy without knowing who we are before we come into our human bodies.

10. Reach Out for Help

If you need a Holistic Spiritual Coach, contact me to book a session here. If you are self-taught and want to take an online course, Thomas Francis University has some great independent spiritual courses. If you want a degree, head on over to the Institute of Metaphysical Humanistic Science. Udemy also has some low-cost options, and YouTube has a lot of free content.

Invest in yourself. Spiritual self-love is the foundation for becoming a self-complete individual.